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Happy Love Relationships With Better Communication

By Janine Jensenoris

Nothing beats new relationships; the thrill, the passion, the discovery, the bliss. You haven’t had time to notice your partner’s annoying quirks yet, nor has your partner noticed yours. Each day seems better than the last. There has been no baby weight gained. There are no incessant over-time hours to make ends meet.

There are no nagging in-laws or conflicts over child-rearing and chores. Despite the obvious benefits of early dating relationships, there is one key drawback; there is also no security. Once the knot has been tied, there is tremendous potential for the deepest love relationships to blossom. With love, understanding, encouragement and daily effort, marriage reaps many rewards.

Fixing Communication Problems

The first step for creating happy love relationships is fixing any communication problems. Dr. David Burns suggests overcoming the silent treatment through a technique called "multiple choice empathy," where you take on full responsibility for the other person’s feelings. You might say a statement like, "I see you don’t want to talk to me. Is there something you’re upset about?

Perhaps I didn’t listen to you as well as I should have or I tried to tell you what to do. I feel really bad that I’ve done this to you." In most cases, the other person will open up. If your partner is overly critical of you, the best move, Burns says, is to accept responsibility and make the statement more positive.

Lets Make Things Right

For instance, if your partner accuses you of being a control freak, you might respond by saying, "I’ll admit I have a tendency to be controlling at times." Then reaffirm how much the person and relationship means to you, mentioning your desire to make things right.

The next step for creating happy love relationships is to focus on your sex life. In your early years, this may have been the glue holding you two together and in later years, this is often a neglected area that drives couples apart. There is no magic number for how often to have sex in a marriage, but it should be under review, discussed and mutually agreed upon.

More Sex May Bring More Intimacy

Don’t worry if every encounter isn’t Hollywood-caliber either. Think of sex like pizza. Even if it’s lousy pizza, it’s still not too bad! For some couples, more is merrier. Having more sexual intimacy makes each time feel more spontaneous and less stressful.

However, with busy schedules, other couples may be settling for a few quickies, arranging a special weekend getaway, waking up an hour earlier or talking dirty to build up the sexual tension until they can’t help but make time.

To borrow from another food analogy, think of sex like chocolate cake: after five days of eating chocolate cake, it might not taste as good, yet after five days of talking about it, that chocolate cake sure sounds good!

Making Life Together More Interesting

Lastly, you can have better love relationships when you enrich yourselves separately. For instance, you shouldn’t give up your love of skiing just because your partner isn’t interested. When you get together after a weekend in Vermont with your friends, you can share photos and stories from your trip to make life more intriguing.

The saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" rings true in most cases. New relationships are often so exciting because you’re constantly learning about the other person. In the same way, pursuing different hobbies can add a freshness to the relationship.

About the Author: Janine Jensenoris is a popular author of dating articles including Adult Personals, Blind Dating, Chat Websites, Real Friends, Adult Party Favors, Conversation Starters, Abusive Relationships, Difficult People, Anger Management, Interracial Relationships.
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More Relationship Facts....

There never has been and never will be a "perfect" relationship. In a relationship there are always ways to improve it. It may mean reintroducing passion back into you and your partner’s life.

It could be scheduling a date night to get away from the kids. Relationships take a lot of work and many times people do not realize they need relationship tuneups as much as they really do. It is hard admitting that things are not quite so rosy and cheerful. But with the right help and guidance, you can put your relationship back on track.

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